I don't want this to be a stereotypical 'Don't bully people' post, but I wanted to raise the issue, just as a little reminder that we are all human and everybody has feelings whether they're made obvious or not.
As I'm finishing up my time at high school I look back and think about how I was lucky enough never to be bullied throughout my time at school. A few remarks from silly pre-pubescent boys were made about my weight and my (in admittance quite chubby) face in my early years of high school, but nothing that was serious enough to be declared bullying.
However as I was about 13 whilst these remarks were being said, I didn't really know how to respond. I had a brilliant time at primary school and no one ever mentioned appearance or properly insulted anyone based on it. So when I did get insulted once I started high school, I didn't know how to deal with it and ended up getting really upset over it. I remember at one stage I thought my face was so fat and chubby that I began sucking in my cheeks to make my face look slimmer. Don't worry, soon enough I realised I was being absolutely ridiculous.
But it just goes to show how much words can effect somebody; you don't know what a person is going through so it really may not be the time to make a little remark on someone's acne or hair colour or teeth etc, even if it is only meant as a joke. I appreciate that the insults made towards me were only ever meant as a bit of banter and none of the boys who were making these insults ever meant to upset me. They were young, immature and silly young 13 year old boys. (however unfortunately some of which still haven't grown up)
As you get older you realise that people's opinions really don't matter. In saying that I am being slightly hypocritical as yes, I do still care about what people think of me. I would love to sit here and tell you I didn't but that's not the truth, I care if someone thinks I'm mean, or bitchy, or annoying or ugly. I try my best every day to make sure I don't give anyone a reason to hate me, but this isn't the way you should be. Having said that, I do stick up for myself. Just because I want people to like me, it doesn't mean that if someone is acting horribly towards me, I won't get angry and confront them. In fact sometimes my quick temper has got me into an argument or two...
But back to the point, if you are getting insulted at school by silly young boys, don't worry they will eventually grow up...well most of them anyway. If it's more serious however and you think you are a victim of bullying then please do tell someone and I'm sure you'll find someone more than willing to help you out.
Chin up buttercup.
Till next time
Katherine x
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